Traditionally, the bride tosses the bouquet and all the single women compete
to catch it. The winner is supposed to be the next girl who will be
married. Likewise, the groom removes the bride's garter and tosses it
for all the single men to fight over; again, the winner will be the next to
be married. The kicker is when the winning bachelor then slides the
prize garter onto the leg of the girl who caught the bouquet.
What most people don't know is the symbolism of
the garter. It's supposed to be a symbol of the bride's virginity, and
the groom's removal of it is a show of his claim on her sexually...
basically, "This woman is mine to have sex with, so everyone else stay
away." Once again, it's all about ownership of the bride by the groom.
That's quite an expression of animal behavior!
We are, however, doing both the garter and the
bouquet. Our reason has nothing to do with tradition, and instead is
very simple: it's fun! Elaine won't be carrying a bouquet during the
ceremony, but will have one to toss.